Asian Parenting with Dr. Nina Nguy, Asian Psychologist

Growing up with immigrant parents is hard.  Your parents claim to love you as they yell at you and bombard you with all the ways you fall short compared to your peers.  You know they love you, but you just don’t feel it.  You’re tired of the cycle of yelling matches, follow by silent treatment/withdraw, then offerings of cut up fruit/food as a peace offering.  Why can’t they see the goodness in you, tell you how proud they are of you, smile at you, and just say they’re sorry like “normal” people?

Perhaps you are an immigrant parent with American-born children.

Your blood boils just thinking about how ungrateful and selfish your children can be.  You’ve had enough of their self-absorption, entitlement, and inconsiderateness.  You are at a lost for how they turned out like this because you are the complete opposite.  You’ve sacrificed so much for them.  You make sure they want for nothing in life.  You work long hours, to make money to provide for them; to give them things and opportunities that you never had growing up.  They don’t know how lucky they have it compared to your childhood back in the old country, and the deprivation you experienced as an immigrant. 

You are not alone.  These are common struggles of having immigrant parents, and second generation children.  You both have more in common than you think.  Underneath the anger, is a deep sadness and a sense of longing.

I’ve been there; I can help you both. 

I specialized in resolving conflicts between first and second generation immigrants, and improving immigrant parent child relationship.   

I’ve treated parents alone, children alone, and both together.  Through our work together, you both will understand yourself better and learn how to effectively communicate your desires and feelings to the other person.  Parents will learn about what life is really like for your children growing up in American; children will learn how your parents came to be this way.  You both will better understand, feel compassion for, and have more positive interactions with each other.  The result of our work together is that you both will get your needs met and have a closer relationship.    

If this is what you want and you’re ready to learn how to do this, then contact me for a consultation here.